In fact, assuming that they are is where pitfalls can occur. Over the course of four years of friendship and dating other people, we discovered the uniqueness of our trust and honesty with each other, and attraction naturally grew. We have learned how to communicate effectively through three years of long distance dating and, through personal tragedy, we have come together to mourn and ask big questions about what “beyond” looks like. It seems to me that, if you removed the outside personas of “church girl” and “agnostic scientist,” our inner selves would look pretty darn similar.

Can an interfaith marriage work?

Which I acknowledge we will have to work with our spouses but to me it’s also about knowing what is the ministry of marriage. Thank you for composing this information in such a thoughtful and patient non judgmental way. As a Christian woman, growing stronger in your walk with God may be to date someone who not only believes in God, but encourages you to prioritize God above all else. Instead of dating men you think may believe in God (“non Christians”), listen to the Holy Spirit’s guidance. Are you struggling to talk about spirituality with your boyfriend? Read 4 Natural Ways to Share Your Faith With Your Boyfriend.

Although your religious views may not line up with one another, your prayers can. Prayer, unlike many things, when it comes to religion, is universal and there’s technically no one right way to do it. Though it may seem impossible to be compatible with someone whose religious views are not aligned with yours, love — if done correctly — can and will overpower anything.

Don’t Ignore the Differences

Having the same religion makes a lot of the relationship easier to work out later on when/if it gets more serious. Even in secular world, if your values don’t align, it will be like yoked life long with an ox, who hates the direction in which you are going. If you do not understand this perspective, I encourage you to get to know us for yourself. And respect them — and us — for who we are rather than for who you want us to be. Likewise, we should be respectful of our fellow counselors.

I doubt that God wants to mislead human beings… or maybe religions are man-made.. Other than that, I wish to thank you once again for your very helpful insights. I must now just be more patient with him, with our relationship, and with where God wants to take our relationship. You’ll need to find out what your boyfriend and his church believe about this. Yes, there are more religiously tolerant people out there.

You’re not going to agree with every point of your partner’s faith. If you can’t accept this, you may as well end the relationship now—it’s headed for the rocks. But, as it is with oil and vinegar, just because you don’t mix in the traditional sense doesn’t mean that you can’t form a beautiful partnership! With the right attitude and emotional tools, any relationship can be successful, no matter the differences in faith and culture.

We’re going to take a look at how you can find that success. Modern dating philosophy assumes that there will be several intimate romantic relationships in a person’s life before marriage. In fact, it advocates “playing the field” in order to determine “what one wants” in a mate. Biblical dating has as its goal to be emotionally and physically intimate with only one member of the opposite sex … your spouse. Now, the biblical support for the modern approach to dating … ….

Ask the tough questions—your relationship and, more importantly, your faith, with thank you. What doctrines do you see as non-negotiable to your faith? There are likely Second Level doctrines that will be included here. So be honest and truthful with yourself while seeking the Lord in fervency. If disagreement over a doctrinal issue impacts the framework of your faith, then perhaps you are entering an imbalanced relationship that will find itself at an impasse.

Christian Dating websites are a great way to find a potential partner with the same religious beliefs as you. Much more research is needed to better understand the familial and relationship outcomes of interfaith couples. Early studies suggest interfaith couples may face unique challenges in regard to the role of religion in their lives, familial and societal support, and whether to raise their children in religion. Interestingly, most children of interfaith couples report their parents not arguing much about religion. And people tend to believe that other variables, such as similar interests and satisfying sex, are more important to a successful marriage than shared religion. In a similar vein, the Pew Research Center also found that religion was less important to children raised by interfaith couples.

And approximately 9 percent of marriages involve partners of differing religions, such as one Protestant partner and one Catholic partner. On the other hand, some forms of religious and spiritual coping can be more problematic. Life events can shake and shatter people spiritually as well as psychologically, socially and physically. People may struggle spiritually with their understanding of God, with inner conflicts or with other people.

But I completely believe that he really wants to make this work with me, and is willing to put in all the effort. It sounds like these events are causing you to deeply rethink some of the beliefs you were brought up with—which is never easy! And yet, perhaps this is God’s way of inviting you to a broader understanding of Christianity. Hi I have been in a marriage for a long time such as you described.

In short, the Bible presents us with the pluses and minuses of interfaith marriage, and requires us to use our judgment in considering whether to marry someone who does not share our faith. And the primary issue from a Biblical perspective is whether this marriage will help or hurt our faith in God. Especially if both people are very stubborn in their way of thinking. I feel like 99% of the time, if two people’s views about life differ so much in something that some find very important, it probably won’t last. It makes sense that so many of us dream, initially at least, that we will find true love with a person who shares the same religious label, because we think it means they have walked the same religious path that we have.

In that case, one must pay more attention to ensure that one’s Catholic faith remains strong and avoids the temptation to grow indifferent regarding the doctrine of the Catholic Faith. Again, the level of religious commitment and practice are good starting points for determining compatibility. Dating couples who are both committed to their religious beliefs can often find ways to make their differences enriching and discover similarities.